You Hurt My Feelings
A24 | Release Date: May 26, 2023 CRITIC SCORE DISTRIBUTION
80
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Generally favorable reviews based on 43 Critic Reviews
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37
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6
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100
Boston GlobeOdie HendersonMay 25, 2023
The summer season rarely has room for a nice, adult comedy like You Hurt My Feelings. It is counter-programming of the finest order and one of the year’s best films. Read full review
100
The New York TimesWesley MorrisMay 25, 2023
This is a work of discipline and structure. It’s a situation comedy in the best, classical sense: These people’s ethical problems are sometimes ours. I’ve been Beth. I’ve been Don. And I had to watch half of what they’re dealing with through my fingers. Read full review
100
ObserverEmily ZemlerMay 24, 2023
Holofcener is a master at these microcosms, which feel like a glimpse into someone’s actual life. She show it to us with empathy and curiosity in a way that feels oddly revolutionary. There’s no VFX, no stunts—just a few people attempting to navigate the ups and downs of human existence. Read full review
100
Washington PostAnn HornadayMay 23, 2023
As a slice of life spiked with mordant, uncynical humor, it’s deliciously entertaining. In other words, it’s another Holofcener movie, which means it’s perilously close to perfect. Read full review
100
Film ThreatAlex SavelievJan 27, 2023
On the surface, the plot is simple, but the nuances, keen observations, silences between words, the humanity of it all, and the ease with which the filmmaker effortlessly navigates turbulent currents subtly transform the feature into a complex drama. There are no heroes or villains, no good or bad people, just folks trying to figure themselves and each other out. Read full review
90
Rolling StoneDavid FearMay 26, 2023
It’s the perfect movie for Louis-Dreyfus to flex her comitragic chops. Read full review
90
ABC NewsPeter TraversMay 26, 2023
Never snap judge a Nicole Holofcener film as a sitcom. Just watch how she steers Julia Louis-Dreyfus and a pitch-perfect cast to dig out the raw feelings colliding under the laughs to reveal a generosity toward human foibles, even when comic darts draw blood. Read full review
90
SlateDana StevensMay 25, 2023
The main character of this movie expends enormous effort seeking affirmation that the words she spends her days trying to get down on paper matter. The movie’s writer-director, one of the most idiosyncratic and indispensable voices currently working in film comedy, needn’t worry about a thing. Read full review
90
Los Angeles TimesGlenn WhippMay 25, 2023
Yes, You Hurt My Feelings explores the incident of its title and the risks and limits of total honesty in a relationship. But it’s also a funny and incisive look at middle-age malaise Read full review
90
Vanity FairRichard LawsonJan 23, 2023
Holofcener weaves these people and their problems together in delicate fashion, guiding us toward her thematic conclusions in a way that never feels starchy, didactic, too lesson-oriented. She’s got a light touch, a humane one too. Read full review
89
Austin ChronicleAlejandra MartinezMay 24, 2023
Overall, You Hurt My Feelings is a sweet, warm, and funny rumination on the delicate nature of our interpersonal relationships. It’s also full of great performances and asks questions other films couldn’t broach without getting too self-important. Read full review
88
RogerEbert.comChristy LemireMay 26, 2023
Holofcener finds both humor and wisdom within the complexity of her cringe comedy, providing rich fodder for conversations afterward. If anything, You Hurt My Feelings might be a little too short; it’s so well-paced and engrossing it just zips by. Read full review
88
Chicago Sun-TimesRichard RoeperMay 24, 2023
If you’re looking for a smart, insightful, slightly cynical yet warmhearted and consistently smile-inducing slice of life reminiscent of the best character-driven films of the 1970s, punch your ticket right here. Read full review
88
The Associated PressJake CoyleMay 24, 2023
With a terrific ensemble, You Hurt My Feelings digs into the half-truths that keep self-doubt at bay in all of these characters. Read full review
88
LarsenOnFilmJosh LarsenMay 24, 2023
You Hurt My Feelings bursts out of the gate with four or five big laughs, then only adds emotional layers and dramatic complications from there. Read full review
88
The Globe and Mail (Toronto)Barry HertzMay 24, 2023
Nearly every performance here is excellent, a beautiful balance of nerves and neuroses. Read full review
88
The Seattle TimesMoira MacdonaldMay 24, 2023
Louis-Dreyfus, making Beth neurotic and loving and devastated and furious all at once, is a joy to watch. Read full review
83
Original-CinKaren GordonMay 25, 2023
While not an instruction manual, in an economical 93 minutes, You Hurt My Feelings is a lovely little encouraging slice of life. Read full review
83
The A.V. ClubJordan HoffmanMay 24, 2023
Julia Louis-Dreyfus, a treasure as always, basically plays it straight and is terrific. Read full review
83
ColliderRoss BonaimeFeb 3, 2023
You Hurt My Feelings is the type of film that reminds us why Holofcener is one of the best writers of comedies today, and that her ability to write films with such small consequences can often feel like a massive achievement, as these are situations that feel honest and human and wholly earnest. Read full review
83
ConsequenceClint WorthingtonJan 31, 2023
You Hurt My Feelings is a quirky, incisive study of ego death, of what happens when you learn you’re not the hot shit you thought you were and have to recalibrate accordingly. Read full review
83
The Film StageJordan RaupJan 23, 2023
Holofcener deftly juggles the emotions of every character, parsing exactly where each is coming from, lucidly and thoughtfully elaborating her script with their specific insecurities. Read full review
80
EmpireIana MurrayAug 7, 2023
Nicole Holofcener transforms an intimate betrayal into an illuminating case study of moral righteousness. A delightful, hilarious and deeply human film about the innate contradictions we refuse to accept. Read full review
80
Wall Street JournalKyle SmithMay 25, 2023
Movies about the mini-problems of normal people are vanishingly rare these days, mainly because it’s hard to make normal people seem interesting enough to be worth the price of a ticket. Ms. Holofcener has more than managed that, in a thoroughly engaging conversation-starter of a film. Read full review
80
Screen DailyAmber WilkinsonJan 26, 2023
While Holofcener doesn’t ultimately dispute that it’s nice to be nice, she does suggest that it’s worth remembering constant positivity has its own negatives. Read full review
80
VarietyOwen GleibermanJan 23, 2023
You Hurt My Feelings stays true to the droll casualness of its title. It’s not a major Holofcener movie; it’s closer to a lively and digressive short story. Yet it’s compelling to see Holofcener merge the fates of all her characters through a grand tweak of the piety of positivity. Read full review
80
The GuardianBenjamin LeeJan 23, 2023
Holofcener and Louis-Dreyfus again make for perfectly pitched partners. Read full review
80
The Hollywood ReporterDavid RooneyJan 23, 2023
There’s a modesty about You Hurt My Feelings that makes it seem in some ways as simple and straightforward as its title. But Holofcener is such a gifted writer that it becomes a mosaic of mildly absurd minutiae, mixed in with legitimate feelings. Read full review
75
San Francisco ChronicleMick LaSalleMay 23, 2023
In its modestly comic way, the movie delves into the question of when it’s better to lie than tell the truth. Read full review
75
Slant MagazineChris BarsantiJan 25, 2023
The film deals forthrightly with the question of purpose and whether or not it can be found in a career. Read full review
75
IndieWireKate ErblandJan 23, 2023
The shagginess of it, the missteps, the rambling bits are pleasurable enough, and there are plenty of laughs and insights here, but there’s also nothing new. Read full review
75
The PlaylistJason BaileyJan 23, 2023
The new film most directly recalls “Enough Said,” Louis-Dreyfus and Holfocener’s collaboration of a decade ago, which also concerned the Louis-Dreyfus character hearing things she shouldn’t. This film doesn’t quite measure up to that one — Jeffrey Waldon’s cinematography is oddly murky, and Menzies can’t provide the strong counterpoint James Gandolfini did. But it’s nevertheless smart, warm, and very, very funny. Read full review
70
Little White LiesHannah StrongJul 25, 2023
It’s a small but perfectly formed comedy of manners, with Menzies particularly great as a therapist who finds himself unable to care about the lives of his patients. Read full review
70
The Daily BeastNick SchagerJun 7, 2023
Proves to be an ideal showcase for its lead—even if its light comedy is a bit too slight. Read full review
70
TimeStephanie ZacharekJan 30, 2023
As a story about how New Yorkers get by, making marriages and family relationships work in one of the toughest cities of the world, it’s both smart and entertaining. Read full review
70
SlashfilmChris EvangelistaJan 23, 2023
One of the things that makes You Hurt My Feelings so enjoyable is that it's simply a film about adults having adult conversations. They drift around New York, or hang out in apartments and bars, and just ... talk. That might sound boring, but the snappy script and hilarious performances keep everything buoyant. Read full review
69
Paste MagazineJacob OllerJan 30, 2023
You Hurt My Feelings, which confronts middle-aged neuroses and creative anxieties with all the subtlety of a bestselling author with a new Twitter account, still finds warmth amid its middling dramedy. Read full review
60
The TelegraphTim RobeyAug 17, 2023
The film is mature, relatable and risks being terminally uncool – full of evident chagrin from Holofcener that she can’t be a new voice these days, but also comfortably embracing the old one. Read full review
60
The GuardianPeter BradshawAug 16, 2023
You Hurt My Feelings is a movie about emotional pain, and there is something very astringent in it, a salty tang which isn’t really effaced by the later plot transitions whose emollient message is that we all fib a bit to our loved ones and it doesn’t mean we love them any the less. Read full review
60
New York Magazine (Vulture)Alison WillmoreMay 26, 2023
It’s warm and inveigling, but what it could use is a little more emotional ugliness. Read full review
60
The New YorkerAnthony LaneMay 22, 2023
Given this mockable array, Holofcener goes surprisingly easy on her troupe of fools. Could it be that, over the years, her approach to the hypersensitive has lost a pinch of sourness and grown more sympathetic? Read full review
60
Screen RantMae AbdulbakiFeb 3, 2023
While the film isn’t overly ambitious or deep, it’s an energetic, occasionally thoughtful and honest film about the lack of honesty and its effects on relationships. Read full review
50
We Got This CoveredMartin CarrJan 31, 2023
Tried, tested, and uninspiring - this four way relationship drama goes over old ground. Read full review
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