You Hurt My Feelings

Name: You Hurt My Feelings
Genre: Drama, Comedy
Released: May 26, 2023
Duration: 93 min
Rating: 80
Cast: Bryan Reynoso, Claudia Robinson, Doug Moe, Erica Matlin, Julia Louis-Dreyfus

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A24 | Release Date: May 26, 2023 | Not Rated

Starring: Bryan Reynoso, Claudia Robinson, Doug Moe, Erica Matlin, Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Karolena Theresa, Lynnsey Lewis, Owen Teague, Spike Einbinder, Tobias Menzies, Trey Santiago-Hudson, Walter Brandes

Summary: A novelist's longstanding marriage is suddenly upended when she overhears her husband giving his honest reaction to her latest book.

Director: Nicole Holofcener

Genre(s): Drama, Comedy

Rating: Not Rated

Runtime: 93 min

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Odie Henderson

May 25, 2023

The summer season rarely has room for a nice, adult comedy like You Hurt My Feelings. It is counter-programming of the finest order and one of the year’s best films. Read full review

David Fear

May 26, 2023

It’s the perfect movie for Louis-Dreyfus to flex her comitragic chops. Read full review

Alejandra Martinez

May 24, 2023

Overall, You Hurt My Feelings is a sweet, warm, and funny rumination on the delicate nature of our interpersonal relationships. It’s also full of great performances and asks questions other films couldn’t broach without getting too self-important. Read full review

The Film Stage Jordan Raup

Jan 23, 2023

Holofcener deftly juggles the emotions of every character, parsing exactly where each is coming from, lucidly and thoughtfully elaborating her script with their specific insecurities. Read full review

The Guardian Benjamin Lee

Jan 23, 2023

Holofcener and Louis-Dreyfus again make for perfectly pitched partners. Read full review

The Playlist Jason Bailey

Jan 23, 2023

The new film most directly recalls “Enough Said,” Louis-Dreyfus and Holfocener’s collaboration of a decade ago, which also concerned the Louis-Dreyfus character hearing things she shouldn’t. This film doesn’t quite measure up to that one — Jeffrey Waldon’s cinematography is oddly murky, and Menzies can’t provide the strong counterpoint James Gandolfini did. But it’s nevertheless smart, warm, and very, very funny. Read full review

Martin Carr

Jan 31, 2023

Tried, tested, and uninspiring - this four way relationship drama goes over old ground. Read full review

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MickVV

May 28, 2023

Comedy is supposed to show us our foibles and flaws and in the process help us see ourselves a little better and not take ourselves so seriously. Her movies do exactly that. Holofcener takes all of live's little defeats and makes charming, redemptive, funny movies about them. They're allComedy is supposed to show us our foibles and flaws and in the process help us see ourselves a little better and not take ourselves so seriously. Her movies do exactly that. Holofcener takes all of live's little defeats and makes charming, redemptive, funny movies about them. They're all excellent, and this might be the best one of all.… Expand

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sarasola

May 27, 2023

Such good writing, and very funny.. laughed out loud so many times. Explored great concepts around relationships & what you build your self-esteem on. Great cast & performances too.

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nnogohko

Jun 6, 2023

This review contains spoilers, click expand to view. You Hurt My Feelings is really entertaining but also very thought provoking. I loved the theme of encouragement or lying to them in good faith can lead to people getting hurt or feeling like they have been led to a wrong path. I especially loved the long dialogue scene where the son tells her parents they told him he was great at swimming even if he actually wasn't or about the time his mom went to school to have his grade changed from a C to a B even if he didn't deserve that raise, and that these experiences made him feel like he was better than everyone else.
The dialogue is so realistic yet very funny and it is very dramatic when it needs to be. Julia Louis Dreyfus is wonderful as Beth but I especially loved Tobias Menzies as Don who gives a very restraint but nuanced performance. Michaela Watkins as Beth's sister is also very funny. There are several moments of drama that made me tear up but the story never gets too heavy and it balances the tone very well with extremely well written jokes. One conversation that happens after Beth is upset with Don about what they bought for each other that they actually didn't like was one of the laugh out loud funniest scenes I have seen in a long time. I loved this movie and I think multiple viewings are required to get everything out of the dialogue and the performances.… Expand

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JLuis_001

Sep 5, 2023

You Hurt My Feelings is a film that can come across as too specifically detailed for it to feel more genuine and natural. Part of me shares this sentiment, but it effectively overcomes this challenge thanks to the excellent performances of its actors, especially Julia Louis-Dreyfus.

WhileYou Hurt My Feelings is a film that can come across as too specifically detailed for it to feel more genuine and natural. Part of me shares this sentiment, but it effectively overcomes this challenge thanks to the excellent performances of its actors, especially Julia Louis-Dreyfus.

While it may give off an initial impression of triviality and simplicity, the film soon transforms into the type of indie drama and comedy that offers more depth than expected, ultimately proving to be a highly rewarding experience.

Indeed, it is a small-scale production, but it leaves a positive impression, both for its impressive craftsmanship and the relevance of its subject matter. The moral of the story is simple and straightforward, yet it addresses an issue that many of us tend to avoid.

Give it a shot. It's a good film.… Expand

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moviemitch96

May 27, 2023

Julia Louis-Dreyfuss and Tobias Menzies star as a married couple who find themselves in an awkward impasse when she overhears him criticizing her latest book, causing their friends, family, and fellow couples around them to reexamine their honest feelings towards each other as well. It's aJulia Louis-Dreyfuss and Tobias Menzies star as a married couple who find themselves in an awkward impasse when she overhears him criticizing her latest book, causing their friends, family, and fellow couples around them to reexamine their honest feelings towards each other as well. It's a rather simple and straightforward comedy, but that's what ends up making it so enjoyable and it's undeniably full of heart, charm, and some genuinely funny moments, even if some of the humorous scenes and moments are played a little too safely at times. Dreyfuss and Menzies make for such a charming pair on screen, and their chemistry is undeniable, with some other humorous and worthwhile appearances from other notable faces, such as real-life married acting couple David Cross and Amber Tamblyn. Nicole Holofcener's sharp and keen eye to writing and directing shines brilliantly through here, and you can tell she really understands the couple dynamics quite well. Overall, though simple and straightforward, it's still surprisingly funny, heartfelt, and just a plain old good time.… Expand

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TVJerry

May 27, 2023

Julia Louis-Dreyfus and Tobias Menzel play a happily married couple...until she overhears him dissing her new book. And the awkward comedy begins. Louis-Dreyfus is in top neurotic/awkward form with Michaela Watkins providing ideal sister vibes and Jeannie Berlin hilariously stealing everyJulia Louis-Dreyfus and Tobias Menzel play a happily married couple...until she overhears him dissing her new book. And the awkward comedy begins. Louis-Dreyfus is in top neurotic/awkward form with Michaela Watkins providing ideal sister vibes and Jeannie Berlin hilariously stealing every scene she's in. Writer/director Nicole Holofcener has penned an amusing script with sharp interactions and her keen observations that much of the humor. While there are serious discussions of love and honesty, it's a special delight to see a charming adult comedy like this back in the cinema.… Expand

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boslfp

May 26, 2023

Reviews said hilarious. Maybe the hilarious bits haappened why I slept. I wasn’t a Seinfeld fan. Maybe that’s the problem.

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